When you think about Phi Mu, your mind might go back to college—Bid Days, chapter meetings, philanthropy events, and late-night study sessions with your sisters. For many of us, those were some of the best times of our lives. But maybe for you, it wasn’t always perfect. Maybe you felt out of place, or the pressures of college life made it hard to enjoy the full Phi Mu experience. Whatever the case, that chapter is behind you.

The good news? Phi Mu doesn’t end with college—it’s a sisterhood for life, and alumnae chapters are not just an extension of your collegiate experience. They offer a whole new way to be involved in Phi Mu, with different dynamics, a fresh sense of community, and more flexibility to fit into your life now.

Here’s Why Alumnae Life is a Fresh Start

While college was all about learning, growing, and figuring out who you are, alumnae life offers a different kind of experience. It’s built on the same foundation of sisterhood but tailored to who we are as women at this stage of life—whether we’re building careers, raising families, traveling, or simply seeking personal fulfillment.

Here’s what makes alumnae chapters different:

1. Less Pressure, More Flexibility

One of the best things about alumnae chapters is the flexibility. There’s no weekly meeting schedule, no need to attend every event, and no pressure to hold leadership positions unless you want to. You can engage in a way that fits your busy schedule—whether that means attending occasional social events, volunteering for philanthropy projects, or simply staying connected online.

Alumnae life is designed to be low-pressure. If you’re balancing a career, kids, or other commitments, you can participate in ways that work for you. Want to pop in for a happy hour once a month? Great! Prefer to join in on a virtual event while catching up on emails? That’s fine too. It’s all about creating a balance that works for your life right now.

2. A Diverse, Multi-Generational Community

Alumnae chapters are a beautiful mix of women from different backgrounds, life stages, and ages. You’ll meet sisters who have just graduated, women who are in the middle of their careers, and women who have retired and are looking to give back in new ways. This diversity makes alumnae chapters so enriching because you’re building connections with women who bring fresh perspectives and unique experiences.

Unlike in college, where everyone was in the same phase of life, alumnae chapters bring together generations of sisters who can learn from and support one another. It’s a space where you can mentor or be mentored, share advice, and gain insights from women who’ve been where you are now.

3. New Opportunities for Leadership and Growth

If you felt like college leadership roles weren’t your thing, alumnae chapters offer leadership opportunities with a different approach. Alumnae leadership can be as simple as helping plan an event or serving on a philanthropy committee. Or, if you want to dive into bigger roles, you can take on a position within your local chapter or get involved with national Phi Mu initiatives.

Leadership as an alumna is about building skills you care about, making a meaningful impact in your community, and connecting with other sisters in a more mature, supportive environment. There’s no pressure to fill big shoes—you can lead in ways that feel natural to you.

4. A Focus on Lifelong Connection and Support

In college, it was all about juggling chapter duties, classes, and social life. Alumnae chapters, on the other hand, are all about genuine connection, sisterhood, and supporting each other through the ups and downs of life. Whether you’re celebrating a new job, navigating motherhood, or looking for advice, your alumnae chapter becomes a network of sisters who’ve got your back.

This is sisterhood that extends far beyond college life—it’s a source of support as you navigate different life transitions. Many alumnae chapters host events centered on personal growth, well-being, and professional development. Whether you’re seeking career advice, personal mentorship, or just a circle of supportive friends, alumnae chapters offer a community that’s there for you.

5. Reconnection Without Expectations

If it’s been a while since you’ve been involved in Phi Mu, alumnae chapters are the perfect way to reconnect without any expectations or pressure. You don’t need to explain why you’ve been away or what happened in college—this is a fresh chapter for you to write. It’s about showing up when you’re ready and being welcomed with open arms.

Whether you’re attending your first alumnae event or simply reconnecting online, there’s no judgment and no need to feel like you have to pick up where you left off. This is your chance to redefine what Phi Mu means to you, at your own pace.

Getting Involved as an Alumna: What’s Next?

If you’re ready to turn the page and experience Phi Mu in a new light, now’s the time to explore what alumnae life has to offer. Here are a few ways to get started:

• Find Your Local Alumnae Chapter: Reach out to your local chapter or explore virtual groups if there’s not one nearby. Many chapters have social media pages where you can connect and see upcoming events.
• Attend a Casual Event: Alumnae chapters often host low-pressure, casual meetups like brunches, happy hours, or philanthropy events. These are great opportunities to meet sisters in a relaxed setting and get a feel for the group.
• Join Online Events: Many alumnae chapters offer virtual options, including book clubs, happy hours, or fundraising efforts. If you prefer to reconnect from the comfort of home, virtual events are an easy and accessible way to engage.
• Start Small: You don’t have to jump in full force. Start by attending one event or reconnecting with a few sisters online. There’s no rush—you can get involved as little or as much as you’d like.

Phi Mu is Here for Every Chapter of Your Life

College was just one part of your Phi Mu journey. Alumnae life is an entirely new chapter filled with opportunities to connect, lead, and grow in ways that reflect who you are today. The beauty of alumnae chapters is that they offer a fresh start, a chance to reimagine what Phi Mu means to you as an adult. So, whether it’s been a few years or many, know that you can always turn the page and start anew in Phi Mu’s alumnae sisterhood. 

After graduation, life can take you in a million different directions—new jobs, new cities, and new experiences. But one thing that never changes is your bond with Phi Mu. As alumnae, our connection to the sisterhood remains strong, and one of the best ways to show that pride is by continuing to wear your letters. Here’s why rocking your Phi Mu gear post-college is not just stylish—it’s meaningful!

Show Your Pride and Support for Phi Mu

Wearing your letters after college is a powerful way to show the world that Phi Mu is still a big part of your life. Whether it’s your favorite t-shirt, a sweatshirt from your collegiate days, or a chic new piece from the Carnation Collection, those letters represent more than just an organization—they stand for the values of love, honor, and truth that unite us all. By wearing your letters, you’re helping to promote our beloved sisterhood and spread awareness about the incredible work Phi Mu continues to do, from supporting Children's Miracle Network Hospitals to funding scholarships through the Phi Mu Foundation. 

A Connection to Sisters Everywhere

You never know when a chance encounter will lead to a new sisterly bond! Wearing your letters is an easy way to identify yourself as a Phi Mu sister—and sometimes that’s all it takes to strike up a conversation with someone you might never have met otherwise. Whether you're in a new city for work, traveling, or just out for a coffee run, those letters can be an instant icebreaker. And who knows? The Phi Mu sister you meet might be looking to join an alumnae chapter or could even become one of your closest friends. 

Stay Engaged with Phi Mu Alumnae Life

Just because you’ve graduated doesn’t mean your Phi Mu journey is over. Wearing your letters can be a great reminder to stay involved with Phi Mu through alumnae chapters, events, and volunteering. It’s also a wonderful way to spark conversations about your alumnae chapter or encourage sisters to get reconnected. Alumnae life is full of opportunities to meet new people, give back to your community, and relive the best parts of your Phi Mu experience in a new, grown-up way. Plus, there’s always the chance to show your support at philanthropy events, meet-ups, or even when cheering on collegiate chapters! 

Nostalgia Meets Style with the Carnation Collection

Post-grad life means your wardrobe has probably evolved a bit—but that doesn’t mean you can’t still rock Phi Mu apparel! The Carnation Collection is Phi Mu’s official boutique and has chic, high-quality pieces that fit any alumnae lifestyle. Whether you’re looking for a trendy jacket, cozy hoodie, or a sleek bag to carry to work, the Carnation Collection offers a sophisticated way to show your Phi Mu spirit with pride. And every purchase from the boutique helps support Phi Mu!

A Constant Reminder of Sisterhood

Wearing your letters keeps the spirit of sisterhood close, even after you’ve walked across the graduation stage. It’s a way to honor the memories of your collegiate years and remind yourself of the support system you’ll always have in Phi Mu. On tough days, slipping on your Phi Mu sweatshirt can remind you of the countless sisters who’ve had your back and the shared experiences that shaped you into the woman you are today.

So, Why Not Wear Your Letters?

Phi Mu isn’t just for four years—it’s for life. By wearing your letters, you’re celebrating the bond we all share as sisters and ensuring that the spirit of Phi Mu continues to flourish, even in your post-college life. Whether you’re reconnecting with old friends, sparking new sisterly connections, or supporting our national initiatives, your letters represent a lifelong commitment to love, honor, and truth. 

So next time you’re reaching into your closet, why not grab that Phi Mu tee or jacket? It’s more than just a piece of clothing—it’s a symbol of who you are and the sisterhood you’ll always be a part of.

Ready to refresh your Phi Mu wardrobe? Check out the Carnation Collection and wear your letters with pride! 

📸: Carnation Collection

As the holiday season wraps us in warmth and celebration, we are reminded of the true spirit of Phi Mu—sisterhood, service, and love. Whether you’re gathering with family, reconnecting with old friends, or reflecting on the past year, this is a time to celebrate the bonds that connect us all.

Gratitude for Our Sisterhood

This time of year is a perfect moment to pause and reflect on the many blessings in our lives, and at the top of that list is the lifelong sisterhood of Phi Mu. Whether we pledged as collegians years ago or just recently, the values of love, honor, and truth continue to guide us through all stages of life. 💫

We are so grateful for the support, friendship, and shared memories that Phi Mu has given us. The relationships we’ve built through Phi Mu have shaped who we are and brought joy to our lives, and for that, we are truly thankful.

The Gift of Giving Back

The holidays are also a time for giving, and as Phi Mu women, we have countless ways to make an impact in the lives of others. This season, consider giving back through our beloved philanthropy, Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals (CMNH), or by supporting the Phi Mu Foundation, which empowers our sisters through scholarships, leadership programs, and financial assistance.

No matter how big or small, your contributions help make a difference in the lives of children and sisters across the country. It’s a beautiful way to carry the spirit of service and sisterhood into the new year.

Staying Connected This Season

As you celebrate this festive season, we encourage you to take time to reconnect with your Phi Mu sisters. Whether it’s attending an alumnae chapter holiday event, reaching out to an old friend, or even just sending a thoughtful message to a sister, staying connected to the women who share this bond brings extra joy and meaning to the holidays.

If you haven’t updated your contact information with Phi Mu yet, now is a great time to do so! Make sure you’re in the loop for holiday celebrations, alumnae events, and exciting opportunities in the new year.

Looking Ahead to the New Year

As we look ahead to 2025, let’s carry the spirit of love, honor, and truth with us. The new year brings new opportunities to grow, lead, and give back. Whether you’re planning to attend an alumnae event, join a philanthropy effort, or simply stay connected virtually, there’s always a place for you in the Phi Mu sisterhood.

No matter where you are this holiday season, remember that you are part of something special—a sisterhood that lasts for life. As the lights twinkle and the celebrations unfold, we wish you a season filled with peace, joy, and cherished moments with the ones you love.

Wishing You a Joyful Holiday Season and a Bright New Year!

From all of us at Phi Mu Indy, happy holidays! May your days be filled with happiness, love, and the warmth of sisterhood. We can’t wait to see what the new year brings and to continue celebrating the bonds that make Phi Mu so special. 

From the moment we joined Phi Mu, we knew it was about more than wearing letters, attending events, or taking on leadership roles during our college years. Deep down, we knew we were meant for more. As alumnae, it’s clearer than ever that Phi Mu is a lifelong sisterhood that continues to shape us long after graduation, helping us become women who lead with purpose, serve with compassion, and live with integrity.

Being part of Phi Mu has always been about living out our values of love, honor, and truth—not just during our collegiate years, but throughout our lives. If you’ve ever felt like there’s more for you beyond the surface level of everyday life, you’re not alone. Here’s how Phi Mu’s lifelong sisterhood reminds us that we’re meant for more—and how you can continue to embrace that calling as an alumna.

You’re Meant for Lifelong Sisterhood

During college, Phi Mu gave us friendships and connections that transformed our experiences. But the beauty of Phi Mu is that sisterhood doesn’t end when you walk across the graduation stage. You’re meant for lifelong sisterhood—a network of women who will continue to support, uplift, and inspire you through every phase of life.

Whether it’s reconnecting with your chapter sisters at an alumnae event, finding support in a new city, or simply knowing that you can reach out to a Phi Mu sister when you need advice, this sisterhood is for life. We’re meant to walk alongside each other, even when life changes, and those bonds only grow stronger over time.

How You Can Live It: Stay connected to your Phi Mu sisters by joining an alumnae chapter or attending local and national Phi Mu events. Lifelong sisterhood is just a phone call or meetup away! 💫

You’re Meant to Lead and Serve

Phi Mu isn’t just about friendship—it’s about leadership and service. As collegiate members, we had opportunities to step up and lead, whether as chapter officers, event organizers, or philanthropists. But those opportunities don’t stop after college. As alumnae, we’re meant to continue leading and serving, both within our Phi Mu community and in the world around us.

From mentoring collegiate sisters to participating in alumnae chapter leadership or volunteering through Phi Mu Foundation, we’re called to use our skills and talents to make a difference. Phi Mu has equipped us to lead with confidence and serve with purpose—now, as alumnae, we have the chance to embrace those roles in new and meaningful ways.

How You Can Live It: Consider taking on an advisory or leadership role in your local alumnae chapter, or volunteer your time to support Phi Mu’s philanthropic initiatives, like Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals. You have so much to give! 💖

You’re Meant to Make an Impact

If there’s one thing Phi Mu teaches us, it’s that we are meant to make an impact. Our values of love, honor, and truth are a guiding light that helps us shape the world around us—whether in our careers, communities, or personal lives. As alumnae, we have the unique opportunity to use the lessons we learned in Phi Mu to make a lasting difference.

From taking on leadership roles in our professions to volunteering in our communities, the impact we make is a reflection of the values Phi Mu instilled in us. We are women of influence, compassion, and integrity, and the world needs more of what Phi Mu women bring to the table.

How You Can Live It: Reflect on how you can make an impact in your community or professional life. Whether it’s through mentorship, service, or leading with integrity in the workplace, Phi Mu’s values guide us to make meaningful change. 🌟

You’re Meant to Grow and Evolve

Phi Mu isn’t just something you "do" during college—it’s something that helps shape who you are and who you become. We’re meant to grow and evolve throughout our lives, and Phi Mu is there to support us through every transition. Whether you’re stepping into a new career, moving to a new city, or starting a family, Phi Mu’s values provide a foundation of strength and support.

As alumnae, we’re constantly evolving, and Phi Mu gives us the space to embrace that growth while staying connected to our core values. Our sisterhood reminds us that growth is a lifelong process, and that through it all, we have sisters to lean on and values to guide us.

How You Can Live It: Take time to reflect on how you’ve grown since your collegiate years and where you want to go next. Connect with sisters who can support your journey, and never be afraid to embrace new challenges and opportunities. 🌸

You’re Meant for a Legacy

Being a part of Phi Mu isn’t just about what we experience personally—it’s also about the legacy we leave behind. As alumnae, we have the responsibility to ensure that Phi Mu continues to thrive for future generations. Whether it’s through financial support, mentorship, or simply staying involved, we’re meant to leave a legacy of love, honor, and truth for the sisters who will follow in our footsteps.

Phi Mu is more than just a college experience—it’s a legacy of sisterhood, service, and leadership that we pass on to the next generation. You are part of that legacy, and your continued involvement helps ensure that future Phi Mu women will have the same opportunities to grow, lead, and serve.

How You Can Live It: Consider supporting Phi Mu through Phi Mu Foundation, volunteering as an advisor or mentor, or staying active in alumnae initiatives. You’re building a legacy for the sisters to come. 💕

Phi Mu was never just about four years—it was about preparing us for the lifetime of purpose, leadership, and connection that lies ahead. As alumnae, we’re meant for more than what meets the eye. We’re meant to lead, to serve, to make an impact, and to leave a lasting legacy.

As you continue your journey as a Phi Mu alumna, remember that the values you carry and the sisterhood you belong to are what make you meant for more. Together, we can continue to live out the mission of Phi Mu, making a difference in our communities, our careers, and the lives of our sisters.

Are you ready to embrace all that Phi Mu has prepared you for? Because you, my sister, are meant for so much more. 

For years, Phi Mu may have been at the center of your college experience. From Bid Day to late-night sisterhood events, chapter meetings to philanthropy projects, your identity as a Phi Mu was woven into almost every aspect of your life. But then graduation arrives, and the chapter events, structured schedules, and constant connection to sisters fade. Suddenly, you're faced with a question many of us as alumnae have struggled with: Who am I without Phi Mu as the center of my world?

This transition from active collegiate member to alumna can feel unsettling, even disorienting. But here’s the truth: While the way Phi Mu fits into your life will change, it doesn’t mean your connection to the sisterhood has to disappear. The challenge lies in redefining your identity, balancing who you were in college with who you are now becoming, and navigating this shift while continuing to honor the impact Phi Mu has had on your life.

Here’s how to maintain your connection to Phi Mu while embracing your new roles and identities as an alumna.

Accept That Your Relationship with Phi Mu Will Evolve

It’s completely normal to feel a little lost after graduation when the constant activity of sorority life suddenly halts. The first step in navigating this transition is accepting that your relationship with Phi Mu will evolve—and that’s okay. Your time as a collegiate member was a specific chapter of your life, but that doesn’t mean your Phi Mu journey is over. Instead, it’s shifting into a new, less visible but equally meaningful phase.

While Phi Mu may not be at the center of your day-to-day life anymore, your experiences, values, and friendships from the sorority continue to shape who you are. Understanding that this evolution is part of your growth as both a person and a sister will help you embrace the change rather than resist it.

How to Embrace This Evolution:

• Reflect on how Phi Mu’s values of love, honor, and truth can guide your life outside of college, even if you’re not attending weekly chapter meetings.

• Realize that evolving relationships and roles don’t mean you’re leaving Phi Mu behind—you’re just shifting how you live out the sisterhood in your current reality.

Reconnect with Your Core Values

At the heart of Phi Mu are timeless values: love, honor, and truth. These are not just words—they are guiding principles that you can carry with you wherever life takes you. When you begin to feel disconnected from Phi Mu after graduation, reconnect with those core values and reflect on how they can continue to shape your decisions, relationships, and personal growth.

The values you embraced as a collegiate member can help you navigate new challenges in your career, relationships, and personal life. Whether it’s choosing integrity in difficult situations, showing kindness in your community, or honoring commitments in your professional life, Phi Mu’s values are a compass that can guide you as you redefine your identity outside of college.

How to Reconnect with Your Values:

• Make time to reflect on how love, honor, and truth show up in your daily life now, and how you can embody them in your career, relationships, and community involvement.

• Journal about times when Phi Mu’s values helped you make a tough decision or showed you the way forward in your personal or professional life.

Honor the Legacy Without Letting It Define You

It’s easy to feel like you need to hold onto the "Phi Mu identity" tightly after graduation because it’s been such a major part of who you are for years. But while Phi Mu will always be part of your story, it’s important to honor that legacy without letting it solely define you. You’re a multifaceted individual with many interests, passions, and talents outside of your sorority experience.

Your time in Phi Mu helped shape who you are today, but it’s just one part of your larger identity. The friendships, leadership skills, and values you gained can continue to influence your life without needing to overshadow your new roles as a professional, partner, parent, or community leader.

How to Honor the Legacy While Expanding Your Identity:

• Embrace the idea that you can be both a proud Phi Mu alumna and an evolving individual exploring new roles and experiences.

• Allow yourself the space to discover new interests, whether that’s through your career, travel, or personal hobbies, while still keeping Phi Mu’s legacy close to your heart.

Stay Connected in Meaningful Ways (On Your Own Terms)

Many alumnae feel the pull to stay involved with Phi Mu, but the form that involvement takes may look different depending on your phase of life. The key is to stay connected in ways that feel meaningful to you—whether that’s through formal alumnae chapters, mentoring collegiate members, or simply nurturing lifelong friendships with your sisters.

You don’t have to show up to every alumnae event or commit to leadership roles to honor your connection to Phi Mu. Maybe you’ll stay engaged through philanthropy, reconnect during reunions, or keep in touch with your closest sisters as you navigate life together. What matters is finding what feels authentic to you, rather than forcing yourself into an identity that no longer fits.

How to Stay Connected in Your Own Way:

• Join an alumnae chapter or attend occasional events, but don’t feel guilty if you’re not as active as you once were—Phi Mu is still part of your life, even if the involvement is more casual.

• Reach out to a mentor or offer your own experience to younger members by staying connected through alumni networks or advisory roles.

Let Go of the Guilt of "Moving On"

It’s common for alumnae to feel guilty for moving on from Phi Mu as a central part of their life. You might wonder if you’re betraying your sisterhood by not being as active, or feel a sense of loss when your new life doesn’t revolve around chapter events. But moving on doesn’t mean leaving Phi Mu behind—it means taking the lessons, friendships, and values you learned and letting them grow with you.

You don’t owe anyone a specific level of involvement, and it’s important to be kind to yourself as you move into this new chapter. Let go of the guilt and remind yourself that Phi Mu is part of who you are, and your connection to the sisterhood will always remain, even as it evolves.

How to Let Go of the Guilt:

• Affirm that you can still honor Phi Mu without living the exact same lifestyle you had in college.

• Focus on the new ways you can contribute to Phi Mu, whether that’s through sharing your story, supporting philanthropy, or offering advice to younger sisters.

Redefining your identity after college can be a challenging but deeply rewarding process. As a Phi Mu alumna, you’re not leaving the sisterhood behind—you’re simply evolving your connection to it. By embracing the core values that Phi Mu instilled in you, honoring your legacy without letting it define you, and staying connected in meaningful ways that fit your current life, you can continue to carry the spirit of Phi Mu with you into every new chapter.

Phi Mu isn’t just a part of your past—it’s a foundation for your future. You’ve been shaped by the love, honor, and truth that Phi Mu represents, and now it’s your time to grow into the next version of yourself with those values guiding the way. Remember, sisterhood doesn’t end at graduation; it simply expands and grows with you. 

For many of us, our Phi Mu experience during college was one of the most defining parts of our lives. Living side by side with our sisters, attending chapter meetings, and participating in countless events gave us a structure for building close relationships. But what happens after we graduate? Does sisterhood change when you’re no longer sharing the same campus or attending the same events?

The short answer is: Yes, sisterhood does change. But that doesn’t mean it fades—it evolves. As alumnae, we may no longer have the same routine that brought us together during our collegiate years, but those bonds don’t have to weaken. Sisterhood just takes on a new form, one that requires a little more intention and flexibility. Let’s dive into how the dynamics of sisterhood shift after college and how we can keep those connections strong, even as our lives and circumstances change.

Acknowledge That Relationships Will Shift (And That's Okay!)

It’s normal to feel anxious about how your friendships with sisters will change once you’re no longer living in the same place or seeing each other regularly. The close-knit structure of chapter life is suddenly gone, and keeping those connections requires more effort. However, this shift doesn’t mean the friendships you’ve built will disappear—it just means they’ll evolve.

Post-graduation life comes with new responsibilities: careers, relationships, moving to new cities, and other changes that naturally pull you in different directions. Some friendships might become less frequent, and that’s okay. It’s important to release the pressure to maintain friendships exactly as they were in college and accept that sisterhood can take on different forms as life moves forward.

How to Embrace the Shift:

• Understand that it’s natural for friendships to ebb and flow based on life circumstances, but that doesn’t diminish the bond you share.

• Rather than focusing on quantity (how often you talk or see each other), focus on quality—the depth and meaning of your connections.

Stay Connected—But Let Go of Expectations

In college, it was easy to stay close because your lives were constantly intertwined. But in post-college life, staying connected takes more effort. You may not see your sisters at weekly chapter meetings or during spontaneous campus hangouts, but that doesn’t mean you can’t continue to nurture those relationships.

That said, managing expectations is key. Your life, and the lives of your sisters, will become busier and more complicated. It’s unrealistic to expect the same level of interaction you had in college. What you can do, though, is find new ways to connect that fit into your evolving lives.

How to Stay Connected Without Pressure:

• Take advantage of technology! Group texts, video calls, or even social media check-ins are easy ways to stay in touch without demanding too much time.

• Plan annual meetups or reunions, even if they’re small or virtual, to keep the tradition of sisterhood alive.

• Understand that periods of silence don’t mean the friendship is over. Life gets busy, and picking up where you left off—whether after a month or a year—is part of how sisterhood can survive long-term.

Sisterhood in Adulthood: Embrace Different Types of Support

One of the biggest changes that happens after graduation is that the kind of support we need from our sisters evolves. During college, you may have bonded over shared experiences like classes, social events, and chapter responsibilities. As an alumna, the kind of support you give and receive from your sisters may look different—it might be career advice, emotional support through personal struggles, or celebrating major life milestones like weddings and new jobs.

As you move through different phases of life, your relationships with your Phi Mu sisters will deepen in new ways. You might find that, even though you don’t talk daily, your sisters show up for you when it matters most.

How to Embrace New Forms of Support:

• Be open to giving and receiving different kinds of support as you move through life—whether it’s offering job advice, cheering on personal achievements, or simply listening when a sister needs to talk.

• Don’t feel guilty if you and your sisters connect less frequently than you did in college. Quality over quantity matters more as you grow older.

Cultivate New Traditions as Alumnae

When you’re no longer bound by the same chapter events, it’s important to cultivate new traditions that reflect your current stage of life. As alumnae, you have the freedom to create rituals that work for your new schedules and interests. This could be an annual retreat, a standing brunch date with local sisters, or even a shared philanthropic project.

These traditions don’t have to be elaborate. What matters is that you continue to create opportunities to bond in ways that are meaningful to you now.

Ideas for Creating New Traditions:

• Plan an annual weekend getaway or a low-key reunion every year. Even something as simple as a virtual happy hour can keep the tradition of togetherness alive.

• Consider starting a group philanthropy project or volunteer together as alumnae. Carrying on the tradition of service can be a fulfilling way to maintain sisterhood while giving back.

• Start a book club or other shared interest group with your sisters. Bonding over something you all enjoy can keep the connection fresh and fun.

Find New Ways to Get Involved with Phi Mu

Another way to maintain your connection to sisterhood is by staying involved with Phi Mu in different ways. Joining an alumnae chapter, serving as a chapter advisor, or attending regional and national events can give you the structure and connection that you may have missed since leaving campus life.

Alumnae chapters offer opportunities to meet sisters who are at different stages of life, building friendships beyond your immediate chapter. You might find that this opens new doors for personal and professional growth, all while staying rooted in Phi Mu’s values of love, honor, and truth.

How to Get Involved as an Alumna:

• Look for a local alumnae chapter and attend events. This is a great way to meet sisters in your area and strengthen your network.

• Stay connected with Phi Mu national events, conventions, or philanthropic efforts like Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals.

• Consider becoming a mentor to collegiate members or younger alumnae. Giving back to the next generation of sisters can be incredibly rewarding and help maintain your sense of connection to Phi Mu.

Yes, sisterhood does change after graduation. But rather than seeing this as a loss, think of it as an evolution. As your life and the lives of your sisters grow and change, so too will the ways you connect and support one another. Whether it’s through quiet check-ins, annual traditions, or new alumnae involvement, sisterhood is a constant force in your life that adapts with you.

While the days of shared campus life may be behind you, the values, love, and bonds of Phi Mu continue to thrive as you navigate adulthood. Your friendships might take new shapes, but they are no less meaningful. Phi Mu sisterhood is about more than proximity—it’s about a lifelong connection that grows alongside you.

The next chapter of your Phi Mu journey is waiting—how will you nurture your sisterhood in this new phase? 💕

Whether you’ve been scrolling through Instagram or getting lost in TikTok’s endless loop, it’s hard to miss the constant stream of content from collegiate sisters living their best lives. From Bid Day celebrations to late-night bonding sessions, social media paints a picture of sorority life that feels vibrant, exciting, and, well, kind of exclusive. As an alumna, watching your chapter continue without you can trigger an all-too-familiar feeling: FOMO—the Fear of Missing Out.

It’s something alumnae don’t often talk about, but the reality is that seeing younger sisters experience the “best years of their lives” can stir up emotions of nostalgia, longing, and even a bit of envy. You might ask yourself, “Am I missing out? Have I moved too far away from something that used to mean so much to me?”

The good news? FOMO doesn’t have to take away from your love of Phi Mu or your role as an alumna. Here’s how to handle those feelings when they pop up and reframe your relationship with your chapter in a way that feels fulfilling and empowering in this new phase of life.

Recognize That FOMO is Normal (And You’re Not Alone)

First things first: feeling FOMO as an alumna is completely normal. When something was such a huge part of your life for years—an experience that shaped your friendships, your personal growth, and your college journey—it’s only natural to feel a sense of longing when you see others enjoying those same experiences.

What you’re feeling is more than just jealousy—it’s a reaction to missing a time in your life that was filled with meaning and joy. Social media can amplify these feelings, especially when it’s filled with polished highlights of events you used to participate in. Just know that many other alumnae feel the same way, even if they don’t talk about it openly.

How to Embrace It:

• Acknowledge that nostalgia and longing are part of the post-college experience. It’s okay to miss those moments—that doesn’t mean you’re living in the past, just that those experiences mattered to you.

• Reach out to other alumnae to talk about those feelings. You’ll likely find they’ve had similar experiences, which can help normalize what you’re going through.

Social Media Only Tells Part of the Story

Remember, what you’re seeing on social media is the highlight reel, not the full picture. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking current collegiate members are having the "best years of their lives" when all you see are the fun moments captured through perfectly filtered photos and TikTok videos. But just like in your time, there are ups and downs, challenges, and moments that don’t make it onto social media.

The same goes for your current life. Sure, your days may not involve Bid Days and themed parties anymore, but that doesn’t mean your experiences are any less valuable or exciting. Social media skews reality, often making us feel like we’re missing out on something that may not even exist the way it appears online.

How to Reframe Social Media:

• When you feel FOMO creeping in, remind yourself that social media is just a curated snapshot. Your college days weren’t perfect, and neither are theirs—every experience has its ups and downs.

• Limit your time scrolling if it brings up negative feelings. Take a break from social media and focus on the present moment and the joy in your current life.

Reframe Your Relationship with Your Chapter

It’s important to remember that while your role in Phi Mu has changed, your relationship with the sisterhood hasn’t disappeared. You’re not missing out—you’re evolving. You’ve moved on from being an active collegiate member to stepping into the alumnae role, which comes with its own unique opportunities for connection and fulfillment.

Think of this as the next chapter in your Phi Mu journey. Just because you’re no longer attending weekly meetings or big events doesn’t mean you’re any less a part of the sisterhood. Now, you can contribute in new ways—mentoring collegiate sisters, getting involved in alumnae chapters, or staying connected through national events.

How to Reframe Your Role:

• Shift your perspective from “I’m missing out” to “I’m growing.” You’ve experienced that part of your life, and now you’re in a position to support and guide the sisters coming after you.

• Consider joining an alumnae chapter or offering to help with chapter events in an advisory capacity. It’s a way to stay engaged without needing to be in the center of the action.

Find New Ways to Stay Connected

While FOMO might make you feel disconnected, there are many ways to stay involved with Phi Mu as an alumna. Instead of focusing on what you’re missing, shift your energy to what you can still gain. Whether it’s through philanthropy, alumnae events, or mentorship, there are countless ways to remain part of the sisterhood, even if you’re no longer living the collegiate experience.

Creating new traditions and relationships within the alumnae community can fill the gap left by missing out on chapter events. It’s all about finding new ways to stay engaged that align with your current life stage.

Ways to Stay Engaged:

• Mentor a collegiate member—offer your guidance and wisdom to a younger sister navigating her journey.

• Attend alumnae events in your area or reconnect with sisters you’ve lost touch with to form new traditions.

• Get involved in philanthropic efforts like Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals, continuing Phi Mu’s legacy of service.

• Volunteer with Phi Mu Fraternity or Phi Mu Foundation

Celebrate Where You Are Now

It’s easy to look back and idealize your collegiate years, but it’s important to celebrate where you are now. You’ve grown since your time in college, and the experiences and lessons you’ve learned as a Phi Mu are now helping you navigate new phases of life—whether it’s starting a career, building a family, or exploring new passions.

Instead of letting FOMO steal your joy, focus on how you can bring the values of love, honor, and truth into your current life. You’re still living the Phi Mu sisterhood, just in different ways. The friendships you’ve built, the leadership skills you’ve honed, and the experiences you’ve had as a Phi Mu member are still very much a part of who you are.

How to Celebrate Now:

• Reflect on how your time in Phi Mu prepared you for where you are today. Celebrate the growth you’ve experienced and the new challenges you’re embracing.

• Practice gratitude for the friendships and experiences that Phi Mu gave you, knowing that they will continue to shape you for years to come.

FOMO is real, but it doesn’t have to control how you feel about your role in Phi Mu. While the collegiate chapter continues without you, your Phi Mu experience is still evolving. The key is to embrace this new phase of your journey and find new ways to stay connected that feel fulfilling and relevant.

You’ve lived those "best years"—and now, you’re shaping the next chapter of your life. Phi Mu isn’t just about the collegiate experience; it’s a lifelong sisterhood that grows with you. So instead of feeling like you’re missing out, lean into the new opportunities to support, guide, and connect with your sisters in meaningful ways. 💫

Life moves fast after college. Between careers, family commitments, and personal growth, it’s easy to lose touch with parts of your past that once felt central to your identity. For many Phi Mu alumnae, the sisterhood that was so important during college may now feel distant. You might find yourself thinking, “I’m not really a Phi Mu anymore.” Maybe it’s been years since you’ve attended an event or connected with sisters, or perhaps the busyness of life has shifted your priorities, making Phi Mu feel like a chapter you’ve closed.

But here’s the truth: Phi Mu is still part of who you are. Even if your relationship with the sisterhood has changed, that connection doesn’t have to fade completely. Whether it’s been months or years since you felt actively involved, there’s always a way to reconnect and rediscover your love for Phi Mu—on your terms and in a way that fits your current life.

If you’ve ever felt that disconnection, this post is for you. Let’s talk about why that feeling happens, how to embrace it without guilt, and how you can take steps to reconnect with the sisterhood that’s still there for you.

Understand Why Disconnection Happens

First, it’s important to recognize that feeling disconnected from Phi Mu is normal. Life is full of transitions, and as we step into new roles—whether as professionals, partners, parents, or community leaders—certain aspects of our past may naturally take a back seat. It’s not that Phi Mu is less important; it’s just that your life has changed, and with it, your priorities have shifted.

This disconnection can happen for many reasons:

• Geographic distance: Moving away from your college town or chapter can make it harder to stay involved.

• Busy schedules: Between work, family, and other commitments, there’s less time to attend alumnae events or reconnect with sisters.

• Changing interests: Your passions and interests may have evolved, leaving you unsure of how Phi Mu fits into your current life.

Understanding that this disconnection is part of the natural flow of life can help you ease the guilt or frustration you may feel. It doesn’t mean you’ve “outgrown” Phi Mu or that you’re no longer part of the sisterhood—it just means it’s time to find new ways to reconnect that fit into your life as it is now.

How to Make Peace with Disconnection:

• Acknowledge that life evolves: It’s okay that you’re not as involved as you once were. Phi Mu is a lifelong sisterhood, and your connection to it can ebb and flow over time.

• Recognize that you’re not alone. Many alumnae feel this way, and it’s more common than you might think.

Let Go of the Pressure to “Do It All”

One reason many alumnae feel disconnected is the pressure to maintain the same level of involvement they had during college. Back then, Phi Mu was a daily part of your life, with chapter meetings, events, and constant contact with sisters. But as an alumna, your role has changed—and so has the level of engagement that’s possible.

It’s important to let go of the expectation that you need to be as involved as you once were. Your Phi Mu experience as an alumna can look different, and that’s okay. The key is finding what feels right for you now, without the pressure to attend every event or hold a leadership position.

How to Release the Pressure:

• Understand that small steps count. Even something as simple as attending one alumnae event or reaching out to one sister is a way to stay connected.

• Shift your mindset from “I have to do everything” to “I can engage in ways that fit my life now.” Phi Mu is there for you, no matter how often you show up.

Take Small Steps Toward Reconnection

If you’re feeling disconnected, the idea of jumping back into Phi Mu involvement can feel overwhelming. The good news is that reconnecting doesn’t have to be an all-or-nothing leap. It’s about taking small, manageable steps that reignite your connection to the sisterhood—without overcommitting yourself or feeling pressured.

Start small:

• Reach out to an old sister: Send a text or message to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. It doesn’t have to be deep—just a simple “thinking of you” can be a powerful way to rekindle the bond.

• Follow Phi Mu on social media: Keeping up with alumnae news, philanthropic efforts, or chapter updates can help you feel reconnected in a low-pressure way.

• Attend a virtual or local alumnae event: If there’s an alumnae chapter near you or an online event happening, try attending—even if it’s just for a short time. Reconnecting face-to-face or virtually can help bridge the gap.

How to Start Reconnecting:

• Don’t overthink it: Even the smallest action is a step toward reconnection. Whether it’s a message, a follow, or attending an event, you’re reigniting your Phi Mu bond in a way that works for you.

• Celebrate each small step you take—progress over perfection is key.

Find New Ways to Be Involved

Sometimes disconnection happens because the ways we used to engage with Phi Mu no longer fit our lives. Maybe attending regular events isn’t feasible, or you’ve moved away from your local alumnae chapter. That doesn’t mean you can’t stay involved—it just means you need to find new ways to connect that align with your current circumstances.

Explore different ways to participate in Phi Mu that feel more aligned with your current life:

• Volunteer or mentor: Many alumnae find meaning in giving back through mentorship. Whether that’s mentoring a collegiate member or offering advice to younger alumnae, this is a way to stay connected in a meaningful, flexible way.

• Support Phi Mu’s philanthropic efforts: You don’t have to attend events to contribute to Phi Mu’s mission. Donating to Phi Mu Foundation or participating in Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals fundraising is a powerful way to stay engaged from anywhere.

• Attend a convention or reunion: National Phi Mu events, like conventions, are a great way to immerse yourself in the sisterhood again without the pressure of regular involvement. These events can be a chance to reconnect with sisters from all over and rekindle your love for Phi Mu.

How to Find New Ways to Engage:

• Explore different roles within the alumnae network—whether that’s helping with philanthropy, mentoring, or offering your talents in new ways.

• Reach out to your local chapter or national organization to see how you can get involved in ways that fit your schedule and life circumstances.

Reignite Your Love for Phi Mu

Sometimes, feeling disconnected can stem from forgetting why Phi Mu mattered to you in the first place. Life gets busy, and it’s easy to lose sight of the values, friendships, and experiences that made Phi Mu such an important part of your life. Taking time to reflect on what Phi Mu means to you now, and why it mattered then, can help you rekindle that love.

Ask yourself:

• What drew me to Phi Mu in the first place?

• How did being a member of Phi Mu shape me as a person?

• What values of Phi Mu—love, honor, and truth—still resonate with me today?

By reconnecting with those feelings and reflecting on the role Phi Mu played in your life, you can begin to rediscover your sense of belonging within the sisterhood.

How to Reignite Your Love for Phi Mu:

• Reflect on memories and experiences that shaped your time in Phi Mu. Journaling or talking to old sisters can bring those feelings back to the surface.

• Consider how Phi Mu’s values—love, honor, truth—are still present in your life, even if you’re not actively involved. This can remind you that Phi Mu isn’t just a sorority—it’s a lifelong sisterhood.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from Phi Mu, know that you’re not alone—and more importantly, it’s never too late to reconnect. Life changes, but sisterhood is constant, even if it evolves. By taking small steps, finding new ways to engage, and rediscovering what Phi Mu means to you now, you can rekindle your love for the sisterhood in a way that fits your current life.

Phi Mu is still part of who you are, and your place in the sisterhood is always there, waiting for you. It’s not about jumping back in full-force—it’s about reconnecting in ways that feel meaningful to you, wherever you are on your journey.

Ready to rediscover your love for Phi Mu? Your sisters are waiting for you with open arms. 💕

Whether you’ve been to a Taylor Swift concert, sing along to her songs in your car, or scroll through her Instagram, one thing is clear: Taylor Swift is a master at celebrating relationships. From her famous "squad" to the ways she honors friendship through her lyrics, she constantly reminds us that sisterhood and support are powerful forces in life. But the lessons Taylor teaches about friendship, loyalty, and empowerment go beyond her music—they resonate deeply with what it means to be part of Phi Mu.

As alumnae of Phi Mu, we can take these lessons to heart, using them to continue fostering sisterhood, building each other up, and staying connected no matter where life takes us. Here are five things Taylor Swift has taught us about sisterhood that ring true for Phi Mu alumnae.

Celebrate Each Other’s Successes, Always

Taylor Swift is known for how she celebrates the accomplishments of her friends—whether it’s cheering them on at events or giving them shout-outs on social media. This kind of encouragement is what sisterhood is all about. As Phi Mu alumnae, we should continue to celebrate each other’s wins, both big and small. Whether a sister gets a promotion, launches a new business, or takes a leap of faith in her personal life, it’s important that we show up to support and cheer each other on.

Just because we’ve graduated doesn’t mean we stop celebrating each other’s milestones. In fact, alumnae sisterhood means recognizing that life’s achievements look different at every stage, and no success is too small to celebrate with your Phi Mu sisters.

What We Can Do: Send a congratulatory note, text, or call when you hear about a sister’s accomplishment. A little support can go a long way in showing your ongoing love and pride in her journey. 🌟

Be There for Each Other During the Tough Times

Taylor Swift has been open about her struggles—whether it's heartbreak, career challenges, or personal growth. Through it all, her close-knit circle of friends has stood by her side, offering unwavering support. As alumnae, we know that life gets messy, and sometimes things don’t go as planned. But sisterhood is about being there for each other through those tough times. Phi Mu has always been a safe space where we could lean on each other, and that doesn’t change after graduation.

The bond we share as sisters means being a constant source of support, whether it’s lending a listening ear, offering advice, or simply being present during difficult moments.

What We Can Do: When a sister is going through a challenging time, reach out to her. Even a simple "I’m here for you" can make a huge difference. Sisterhood is about being a steady presence, especially when life feels uncertain. 💞

Build a Support Network That Empowers You

One of the things Taylor Swift has mastered is surrounding herself with people who lift her up. Her "squad" is filled with women who support one another, and it’s a great reminder that we should do the same. As Phi Mu alumnae, we have a built-in network of support in our sisterhood. Whether it’s reconnecting with an old friend or joining an alumnae chapter in a new city, the Phi Mu network is filled with sisters who are ready to empower and inspire you.

Sisterhood isn’t just about friendship—it’s about empowerment. Being surrounded by women who encourage you to chase your dreams, live authentically, and stay true to your values is one of the greatest gifts of our sisterhood.

What We Can Do: If you’re feeling disconnected, reach out to your Phi Mu network—join a local alumnae chapter, attend events, or simply reconnect with old sisters online. Strengthening your support network can help you thrive, both personally and professionally. 💖

Lift Each Other Up, Don’t Compete

One of the best lessons Taylor Swift teaches is that there is enough room for everyone to succeed. Instead of competing with one another, she celebrates other women’s accomplishments and creates a space where everyone can shine. In Phi Mu, we learn the importance of lifting each other up, not comparing or competing with one another.

As alumnae, we can carry this lesson forward by continuing to support our sisters, no matter where they are in life. There’s no room for comparison or jealousy in sisterhood—there’s only room for love, respect, and mutual admiration.

What We Can Do: When you feel the urge to compare yourself to a sister’s success, shift your mindset to one of support. Celebrate her wins and trust that your journey is just as important. There’s room for everyone to shine! 🌸

Stay Connected, No Matter Where Life Takes You

Taylor Swift’s friendships have stood the test of time, even as life has taken her and her friends in different directions. Similarly, Phi Mu sisterhood lasts far beyond our college years. Whether we’ve moved to a new city, started a new career, or taken on new roles as mothers, professionals, or community leaders, it’s important to stay connected.

Even when we’re miles apart or on different life paths, the bond we share through Phi Mu remains strong. Social media, alumnae chapters, and reunions give us opportunities to reconnect and strengthen our sisterhood, no matter where life takes us.

What We Can Do: Make an effort to stay connected to your Phi Mu sisters. Attend reunions, join Phi Mu groups on social media, or simply reach out to check in. The bond you built in college is meant to last a lifetime. 💫

Taylor Swift has taught us that sisterhood isn’t just about having friends—it’s about showing up, empowering one another, and staying connected through every chapter of life. As Phi Mu alumnae, we know that sisterhood isn’t something that ends when we graduate. It’s a bond that lasts forever, guiding us through life’s highs and lows, offering us friendship, support, and empowerment along the way.

Whether we’re celebrating each other’s successes or standing by each other during tough times, the lessons we’ve learned from Phi Mu and from women like Taylor Swift remind us that sisterhood is one of life’s greatest gifts.

Let’s continue to lift each other up, stay connected, and celebrate the incredible journey of sisterhood—together.

As Taylor Swift wraps up her Eras Tour tonight in Indianapolis, we’re reminded of the many eras within our sisterhood. Just like Taylor has redefined the music industry, Phi Mu’s trailblazing women have shaped our fraternity, leaving legacies that still inspire us today. In celebration of both Taylor and Phi Mu, we’re spotlighting some of the most iconic women in our history. Each of these sisters has left an unforgettable mark on Phi Mu, and we are forever grateful for the paths they’ve paved.

Zenobia Wooten Keller — 💚 Leading Phi Mu for over 38 years
With an astounding 38 years on the National Council, including two terms as National President, Zenobia Wooten Keller holds the title for the longest service at Phi Mu’s highest national level. She also managed Phi Mu’s Executive Office for 33 years! Her unwavering dedication brought Phi Mu into the modern era, and her leadership is our debut story of vision and commitment.

Sarah Amelia Bardwell Wright — 💛 A legacy that shines through our symbols
As one of the earliest members of the Philomathean Society, Sarah Amelia Bardwell Wright designed the first Phi Mu badge. Her fearless creativity still shines today in our symbols, reflecting the timeless strength and beauty of our sisterhood. Her contribution is truly one of our golden moments.

Annadell Craig Lamb — ❤️ Preserving our legacy with unmatched passion
If there’s anyone who embodied the burning red passion of our sisterhood, it was Annadell Craig Lamb. As the author of The History of Phi Mu and the longest-serving member of the Phi Mu Foundation Board of Trustees, Annadell made it her mission to preserve our legacy. Her work on the Foundation’s behalf and her love for Phi Mu resonate deeply with every sister, reminding us that our history is something worth treasuring.

Louisa Manning Elliott — 💜 Our enchanted beginning
Louisa Manning Elliott was Phi Mu’s first National President, serving from 1907-1913. Her leadership set the foundation for what Phi Mu would become, and her time at the helm was nothing short of magical. As the mastermind behind our early years, she helped create the future of Phi Mu with grace and foresight.

Adele Redditt Williamson — 💙 Making Phi Mu’s legacy shimmer
As Phi Mu’s 14th National President and a major player on the national Panhellenic stage, Adele Redditt Williamson spent 12 years ensuring our legacy was secure. Serving as NPC Chairman, she represented Phi Mu with pride and made our name shimmer on the Greek world stage.

Louise Lane Moore — 🌑 A trailblazer in service and sisterhood
Recognized as Outstanding Alumnae Member in 1988, Louise Lane Moore was a shining example of leadership and service. Her role as a mentor and a model of sisterhood made her a trailblazer, and her impact continues to influence Phi Mu women across generations.

Frances Mitchelson — 🩷 Pure love for Phi Mu
At just 29 years old, Frances Mitchelson became Phi Mu’s National President, bringing youthful energy and a deep passion for the organization. Her contributions were always in a state of grace, leading with love and commitment that resonates throughout Phi Mu’s history.

Leona Hughes Hughes — 🩶 A quiet strength in philanthropy
Leona Hughes Hughes dedicated over 26 years to Phi Mu Foundation, establishing the Leona and Lewis Hughes Fund and becoming the first recipient of the Fleur de Lis level of giving. Her epiphany? Realizing the transformative power of philanthropy, she led with a quiet strength that continues to impact Phi Mu’s philanthropic efforts.

Susan Bynum Turner — 🌾 Ensuring our traditions live on
Author of many of Phi Mu’s original rituals, Susan Bynum Turner played a pivotal role in shaping our ceremonies, which are still part of our sisterhood today. Her contributions to the Seven Ceremonies of Phi Mu are a cornerstone of our traditions, ensuring our rituals will live on forevermore.

Our Founders & Lynn Storlien McGraw — 🌙 Guiding Phi Mu through every era
Standing proudly in what we call our Midnights era are our Founders, and right there with them is Lynn Storlien McGraw, our current National President. Now serving her second biennium, Lynn leads with passion and dedication, continuing the legacy of leadership that our Founders began. Together, they represent our starlight, guiding Phi Mu through every era of sisterhood.

Tonight, as Taylor’s Eras Tour draws to a close, we celebrate these extraordinary women who remind us that every Phi Mu era is filled with moments of glitter and gold. Whether you’re dancing in your seats or reflecting on the beauty of our sisterhood, we hope you feel the spark of connection that binds us all together. 💫